Quote: What on earth could be so stressful about something so natural and wonderful as to connect intimately with the one you love. If you ask me, I would say its destressing and relaxing.
Sounds like you and your h are different in this area. He needs to be relaxed and de-stressed beforehand. You see it as a way to relax. Neither is right or wrong, just different. How does your h relax? Ask him if you're not sure. Ask him even if you think you absolutely, positively know! If he doesn't have a way to relax, it might help you (and him!) out in the long run to help him find a way to de-stress.
From what you've written in other posts, it seems he has plenty of stress. It needs to be a priority for his health to find a way to cope with it.
