Like you, I've continued reading everyone's posts but haven't felt much like contributing. I'm actually doing pretty well right now as far as not letting the lack of intimacy bother me as much, but I know exactly where you're coming from with your post. For the first time in quite a while I feel like I can go longer than two weeks without saying or doing something to start the sex argument with my wife, although that has yet to be proven. I'm convinced that forcing myself to back off and accept the situation for the time being is my best hope for eventually seeing some improvement. But I'm fairly certain that I can't keep it up indefinitely.
I've finally managed to accept that my wife loves me and that her lack of desire for me is nothing she can control. However I do believe that she can make efforts to regain her desire - MPT and Lis3 are perfect examples of that. But as long as I continue to put even the slightest amount of pressure on her to change, I'm convinced that she's not going to make any effort whatsoever. I'm prepared to stick with my plan of no pressure and not initiating any physical contact for a period of months. But if there's no improvement after several months I honestly don't know what I'll do. All I can say is that I hope I'm not faced with that decision.
