I am responding to your last question on Johns last locked thread. Yes, I have filed. My wife is too far gone and has brought our children into her A. BTW.. The OM is 67 which is over 30 years older than her. She admits that she has and always will be an angry woman and that she is dead set on a D. I value my family, but her lifestyle of bar hoping, flirting and drunken driving is not healthy to my family. Also, my income may very soon go way up as my company is getting real successful. I need to get this done now before that happens. I am done with her but realize that I must still deal with her occasionally on a friend only basis. I will most likely have many years of watching her life spiral out of control. I just dont want to be a participant except to insure my kids are safe and raised in a responsible way.