Very interesting thought. I think of my situation with a LD spouse, being the HD partner. She has read SSM, even making marks in the book to draw attention to certain ideas. But a leopard doesn't change it's spots, we're back to the "old ways" of infrequent sex, little closeness or intimacy. Think how hard it is for a HD spouse, seeing , working beside, talking etc. with people who you can sense enjoy a good sex life. Having fantasies about coworkers, or strangers, then feeling the guilt for doing so. The shame and guilt that can accompany the self pleasuring that will help you get over the HD urges, yet also re-inforce the disappointment that improvement is likely never to be just around the corner. If it is possible to have an emotionally fulfilling sexless relationship with your spouse for life, would it be also possible to have a non-emotional sexual relationship with someone outside of your marriage? Why does this not seem like an acceptable solution to a SSM? I know that society, religion, and morals would dictate otherwise, but where is their solution to a SSM? Prayer? Abstinence? Cold Showers? Your thought?
