Quoting luvhubby: H is now talking about a second child so I know he will initiate sometime in the future for that purpose. That is not what I want at all. I want my H to ML to me because he wants to and afterwards, I want him to hold me, stroke my hair and tell me he loves me etc. H never does that. When we were courting, H would IMMEDIATELY get up to do some studies right after ML and when we were trying for a baby, H would get up immediately afterwards to chat online with his best buddy. Now I fear that if we were to try for another kid, he would get up immediately afterwards to play a PC game or do some work. How to I tell him all this without getting him upset or feeling pressured, I simply have no idea and so I keep quiet and try to maintain peace and harmony in my home.
Sure its not the way you want it, but is it better than nothing? The underhanded thing to do would be to keep taking birth control so you can get more encounters! I remember how excited I was when we decided to have our first child. Of course I was excited about having a baby, but I was also excited about getting to make the baby. But, alas, it only took 3 encounters. I had the same excitement when we decided to have another baby 4 years later. I figured there was no way it would be only 3 encounters again. Well, I was right. It only took 1 time!
FredD
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
