I haven't been posting because there is no progress and I'm not sure I can create any.
I have had the flu this week. was served d papers on tue, while w sat in car in driveway, coward. wed was my 40th bday. got a present from my d8, but w totally ignored the event. this as she has a big bag present for my BIL sitting on our bar for his bday. no card...just a happy bday. nice reflection of where we are. s also returned her xmas present to min my office with no explanation..coward.
on wed I got an email from w asking if we could put together a firm schedule for us anthe kids. basically who is responsible for what days. I ignored it because I was 30 ft from her when she sent it.
I then got another that evening that had more venom in it and that she would assume she was responsible 24-7 because I was ignoring her. I replied that I was just up the stairs, why can't you just come and talk about it. she said I was not capapble of having a legitimate conversation. I replied that I am if she can keep her temper out of it.
so after a couple more emails..up she comes. immediately on the attack..she replies with everything I said with a "NO", then a sentence. not exactly out of the communication manual. reason w can't have a civil discussion is its all about her needs, and if shes had a couple glasses of wine, if I disagree or won't commit to something, her temper comes to the front row. now...I'm sure you will think I am antagonizing her. but I am very calm and business like.
one of the discussions was in regard to a winter break vacation we had planned with our kids. I think we should cancel it. she wants to take the kids by herself for 8 days. she says our kids deserve it and have been looking forward to it. mind you our kids are not deprived of nice vacations. at one point during this conversation, she got so mad and told me she would do all her communicating through her lawyer. nice threat. I told her our kids are looking forward to growing up in a two parent household right now. end of discussion.
anyway...she is being very difficult, cold as possible,and very selfish. if its not a discussion about the kids, then there is no talking.
her dad emailed me on my bday. said his daughter is "god damn stupid". he is convinced its mlc and he wants to do all he can. I told him to research that a bit and I was not confident he could do anything.
w going out tonight...I don't even want to think about it.
again..not sure why she has so much anger towards me. I really have been very nice through this entire process. but if I disagree in the slightest with her plan...I am a jerk.
now don't tell me to just agree with everything....shes nuts.
