That's a great sign Olive. Good for you!!! Weirdly, I still feel that way even though we're reconciled. My husband called me tonight and told me he's meeting some friends for beer after work. Prior to everything, I would have been worried and upset as the time got later, but now I don't have any feelings about it. In fact, I wouldn't mind if he stayed out later so I could go join my girlfriends, chat, and watch them oogle guys. Life is fun!
Now, the idea of you, Olive, being weak prey.... no.... I've seen weak prey here and you aren't it. I just see it as you practicing those attractive qualities that are going to make every man want to be around you and eventually cause H to think, "Boy was I stupid to let that woman go!" Keep it up lovely one!!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Olive, that is good that you are pulling back a bit. The space will do you some good. Is there an overnight trip you and D can plan together? That would be sooo fun!
Your thread locked. We know he's spending the night with the OW.
Deepest hugs and prayers to you tonight.
He's a f@cking bastard. That's all. A huge f#cking bastard.
I want to kick his ass. No....correction...I want to put a crowbar in his head.
That's why you are moving along with the divorce, because he's an immoral, philandering, piece of sh*t excuse for a man.
And I want to kick the elders a$$es in your church for allowing your husband to remain in leadership and not taking the steps to spiritually kick him in the butt.
God is not to mocked. The sh#t will the fan eventually. If not now, then without fail on the day of judgment. You see I'm not a politically correct pansy. My God is merciful and gracious, but..he also executes justice...and in the words of Johnny Cash, he's taking names. If there's any love left for your husband, pray for his soul. He's in deep weeds. Pray for those church leaders who have to answer to God for the way they abandoned you and your daughter. Every tear in your daughter's eyes about this breakup will be held against them.
And Olive, find a better church. One with real men in it. Men who know how to treat a lady.
My love to you this evening.
---Theoden
Man...Theo...I love reading this, it pops up whenever I read Olive's thread and gives me warm fuzzies that friends out there feel so strongly for people like us. Plus it reminds me that there are friends of mine that are thinking similar thoughts about my h.
Olive, hope you're doing okay. Back to catching up on your thread.
H is taking D4 to run "errands" today and will most likely be seeing ow and kids. I was adamant that this not happen and he was very good about it when I put my foot down a couple of times..
Now that we are d'ing, I don't know if I can stop it. Once the D is final, she will be exposed to them anyway... Ugh... I'm tired of fighting this crap..