Quoting MPT:But something in your posts leads me to ask you how are you are doing otherwise? Are you feeling okay?
Thanks for responding MPT. If not for this issue, I am very happy and have a good R with H and that is probably why I am so afraid to rock the boat. We laugh a lot together. He is also more affectionate now as compared to a few months ago. However, no passion for me. None whatsoever. H does not think that the lack of intimacy in our M is a problem and thinks I am crazy to complain about the 10% of unhappiness and risk giving up our 90% of happiness.
I know H is under a great strain as we are currently living under his one income but he works very hard to make sure we are doing ok. H is a wonderful father and we have lots of family time together. H does not understand why I am always talking about my individual needs, why I have to separate my needs from our family's needs since we spend a lot of happy times together as a family unit.
I think that H is dissapointed when I tell him that when there is no intimacy my emotional needs are not being met. Everytime I mention this issue it makes both of us unhappy and H feels very stressed and pressured by it. I don't know what else to do but to not press the issue anymore as I love H very much and stressing him up further is the last thing I want to do. H sometimes tells me to be patient and that things will get better but they never do. Something new always comes up and intimacy goes to the back burner again. H is always too tired and too busy. I think you have to make time for such things or you will never have the time, ever.
I don't know what else to do except to not mention this anymore and to try to do more for H so he would be less tired. And I shall be patient and wait but I do forsee a long, long wait.
