Your wife is still in MLC right? As long as she is the OM is a symptom of it.
I suppose this is why we simply have to lovingly detach, act as if and GAL. Easier said than done, but I am working on it.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM