If you look back at your own post you will find that you sounded much more positive in the beggining. Now you sound in despair. Perhaps you are trying too hard and your frustration is showing through to your W.
About your plan, just be careful that your W may not interpret it as 'loving' detachment. It may just confirm her belief (if she feels that way) that you are being nice to her for one reason only. She may also interpret you as trying to 'punish' her ie "if you don't satisfy my needs, I shall withold this and that from you". Also, you mentioned that some of the plan does not feel natural to you. My feeling is to avoid those that does not come naturally to you.
I have a link for you about how some low libido W's feel about their sitch. No Sex Drive At All All of them love their Hs and haven't the faintest clue on how to deal with the problem. I think communication is the key. Perhaps your W feels that way too and does not know how to communicate her feelings to you just has you are having difficulty communicating yours to her so do work on the communication process. Maybe your W is also struggling within herself about not being able to 'please' you but does not know how to tell you.
I hope things improve for you. As for me, I have decided to accept things for what they are and wait patiently. This has made H much happier but I think I have a long wait ahead of me.
