Funny about the tire analogy. I got to learn how to fix a flat by myself, in the dark, in the snow when i was 16. That was fun. hehe.
Anyways.. i appreciate what you are saying. I've been trying to be more clear with him. I don't even touch the stuff about him working on him anymore because that just comes back to he wouldn't be so insecure/angry/stressed if it hadn't been for OM. I think he needs more time before he'll get past it enough to look at himself.
Before all the D talk and EA, i used to tell him that it hurt me when he was mean or wasn't nice. I'm sure he did the same thing, like WTH? I was just really hurting and normally saying more than that would bring me to tears and then he'd ask me why i was being such a baby, so i didn't ever know what else to say. Now i'm trying to be more direct with him. I really struggle with his issues with OM cause i don't know how to battle that when he brings it up in response to my telling him i need him to be nicer (in various ways). I think Dom's suggestion will really help with that.
I'm thinking that he really really needs some IC. He's up one moment and down the next. There are times i think he's really depressed and then all of the sudden he has a good day and I am totally at a loss.
I'm glad you are still around. I appreciate your advice. I'm trying to be clearer with what i want. Now i just have to talk to him about his OM refrences and I'll feel alot better.
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