thanks so much Karen, but this is far past the bedroom. This is not about sex right now. She specifically asked me how we can fall in love when we've never been in love. How do we save this marriage? There is info out there for couples who have fallen out of love. But there really is not much there for a spouse who has never been in love period. I realise that there are things I can do to help her begin to have a new perception of me. But what can I tell her to do in the mean time while I work on myself? She is unwilling to do counsiling or anything like that at this time.
This is the first time she's asked me what she can do. I don't want to screw this up. I want a solid answer for her. One that she'll understand, and take into consideration. I keep telling her that I believe we can work it out. But this is unattainable for her. She can't grasp it because she sees no hope. She sees no way. What can she do while I DB?
