I had to go with a list of providers on my insurance company, the ones that were still taking patients, that wasn't very many. Then I called them up. We went with a man, in retrospect, I wish we had gone with a woman, b/c I find I prefer them. The initial therapist we went with did not go well. He was one of the therapists who don't talk at all which I don't like myself. I don't know if this is a gender thing, or just the way they are trained or what, but the women therapists I have had all seem to offer a bit of input, which I tend to prefer. This was esp. bad because my H is a lawyer, kind of manipulative, and just kind of went in a little bit of attack mode, and the therapist didn't try to neutralize him much if that makes any sense.
I have now found a woman therapist who is wonderful, sweet, knows her stuff, very good. All 3 therapists in my life that have been good are women and the one I didn't like was a man. I guess it could be coincidence. I also knew from listening to my latest therapist that she was really sweet and nice. Her voice on the voice mail message was just really sweet and nice. I got a good vibe from hearing it. I know some people would think this is very unscientific, but that kind of stuff seems to work out for me 99.9% of the time, so it works for me anyway.
