I got that same speech two years ago. I know how it must hurt.
This really does not change any of the advice you have been getting here.
Your W's reaction is to run-away, as my W's reaction was and still is. That is who they are. We cannot change that. In fact, finding your W reading the D-book clears the air and provides a further call to action for you.
She is not rushing - so use this time wisely. This was a test.
Focus on you. Use your courage to create that positive energy. When your confidence returns, so will your strength.
Do this regardless of the outcome with W.
Get frank_D back first and then assess where you need to go with your life and with the relationship.
