Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

[blindsided1]

Hi Ann, I think what Dom wrote about H and OW issue is great. Beind one that has dealt with OP, that would totally work for me if he said it in that way. The only thing, in my opinion, that I would change is the line

"Using 'you were involved with OM' in the past, as an excuse to not work on our marriage, is not right."

to "Using 'you were involved with OM' in the past, as an excuse to not working on our marriage, is not productive."

That alleviates any judgement statements. But, it's just my opinion. I know I would rather hear that than be told what I was doing wasn't "right".

Good luck - would love to know how it turns out.