Quoting sooner1992: Can you give me any tips as to how I can get her to read it? I've tried the "let's work on this problem together" approach, but she still feels like I'm attacking her and she hates me for it. Any advice you can give me concerning ways to make progress will be greatly appreciated Sooner
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I agree whole heartedly with MPT. You don't want to smother the small spark that seems to be there. I'm glad your wife read my post. I hope she felt some kind of connection with the words I posted.
I agree that you need to give her room to breath. However, I know that when my H did that I often had a sigh of relief and thought "well thank God he's not bugging me for sex, it's about dam time!"
Do you read the book in front of your wife? I'm thinking that maybe if she saw you reading in bed, she might lean over to take a peek. What if you were taking notes too? That wouldv'e made me curious.
I will get my H's opinion on this one. It's a delicate thing because it seems like her reading the posts was such a big step forward and you don't want to do something to take two steps back.
You have to remember it's a hard thing to admit you have a problem with intimacy. I think once your w realizes that you love her and not sex and that you are attracted to her and not sex she may see things differently. Those two thoughts are basically what changed my desire. I came to realize what my H really wanted. Took me eight years, but at least I got it!
