I forgot how easy and comfortable you can be around people if you talk. For example, If I acted grumpy around you and said nothing. You would probably act like "what's up with him" and stay away until I was cool again. But if I just said "hey, I'm in a mood right now and I don't know why, I might not be good company" There would be no eggshells. No awkwardness. Because I told you what's up. But as we get comfortable around each other and start to take each other for granted we start to do things like that to each other. We just forget. I don't want to be that anymore so that's one of the things I am working on for myself.
Ya know NT, what you said here makes a lot of sense. It is so true...if H came home in a mood I would usually do the same thing. Wonder what bug got up his arse??? Then I would be funky towards him then we'd end up arguing.
I guess it's like you said, through the years we tend to take for granted our partners and think that we know them inside and out. But in actuality...we don't always know what the other person is thinking or feeling. And I believe sometimes THEY don't know what's wrong either. This is how I'm looking at this situation I'm in now. H can't really express what's going on with him cuz he really doesn't know and has no idea HOW to express it. That's why the patience and detaching is really important. We have to let them go get things together in their minds before they can even think about coming back home.
NT, how are you going to handle being in Iraq with this situation with your W? That has got to be the hardest thing to deal with...
