You have such great advice for Sooner MPT, I wish you had some for me. I have no solutions whatsoever except to try and be patient. This I have been doing but I have this nagging fear that when I do this H will think that all is well and then not do anything about the sitch.
My Hs desire is totally gone. I'm not crying out for more, just crying out for some, any... We have ML only twice in two years and that is only recently after the months of my telling H about how unhappy I am about the lack of intimacy in my M so he did it to pacify me, one counsellor calls this Mercy Sex.
H is now talking about a second child so I know he will initiate sometime in the future for that purpose. That is not what I want at all. I want my H to ML to me because he wants to and afterwards, I want him to hold me, stroke my hair and tell me he loves me etc. H never does that. When we were courting, H would IMMEDIATELY get up to do some studies right after ML and when we were trying for a baby, H would get up immediately afterwards to chat online with his best buddy. Now I fear that if we were to try for another kid, he would get up immediately afterwards to play a PC game or do some work. How to I tell him all this without getting him upset or feeling pressured, I simply have no idea and so I keep quiet and try to maintain peace and harmony in my home.
I love my H dearly and cannot find any fault in him so I surely do not want to create an unhappy atmosphere at home but is keeping quiet the answer? There is a mismatch of desire in my M but I do not know what to do about it. I guess it has always been this way even when we were courting but then H did cheat on me with a coworker then (during courting days) so I thought maybe its me he doesn't want. However thats over now. H ended the A, I have forgiven him, we have moved forward, but he still has no desire for me. What can I do? I'm so lost.
