Your W. really sounds a lot like mine. My W. once was asked by our MC: "Would you rather be right or be happy". My W. replied with a stone face: "I can't tell the difference"! I'm with you on the taking rejection a little hard these days. We're not working with the "emotional net" we once had in our spouse. We're on our own in that department right now, and it su*ks! You're doing the best you can with D13 as well. Your sitch in this regard is so much like mine: W. at loggerhead with oldest Daughter; an absolute need to control! My D17 said the same about my W. D17 tried to tell me a few weeks ago: "Mom seems much happier, so you need to look at the bright side of a divorce. You know Mom's emotions control the whole family". I wanted to say "Why the F^^K should we have to live by those rules, but there is no answer.
Your lines were exaclty like mine, not wanting to throw your wife under the bus, but you and your D. both know how difficult you W. is. Her life IS hard, and a lot of it is by her own hand,
