Hope I can answer this question so that you can understand it. You asked:
Quoting sooner1992: Just out of curiosity, if you had absolutely no desire to be intimate with your husband, why did it bother you to think that he didn't want you anymore? Sooner
It bothered me for the same reason your wife's denial bother you, it hurt! The devil on my shoulder would say, "Oh thank God, it's about time he got the message, I'm not interested." But, there's the angel on my other shoulder telling me, "see what you did? Now he doesn't even want you anymore." My H told me he wasn't interested in me because he just didn't know how to act with me anymore since it had been so long since we'd been intimate. It hurt me, but I went on and didn't change. I'm sorry to say that all this approach did was cause hurt feelings.
I have to admit that what my H would totally stop pursuing me (no grabbing, i love you's, no sex talk, no good nights etc). I would start to try pursuing him. Natural instict to keep the herd together I guess. As soon as he "loved" me back again, I went back to my old self.
Just wish your wife would read the book. Feel free to pick my brain for answers.
