I think you need to try and lovingly detach with sincerity as best you can.
Its ok to not end the call with an ILU, as long as your voice when talking to her is upbeat and sincere. You don't have to purposely avoid a goodbye kiss, you can give her a peck on the cheek if you need to.
You don't ever want to do something that is so non-natural for you that it is counterproductive. At the same time, a subtle message must be sent to her that you aren't too accepting of her behaviour. Thats where pulling back from the ILUs and physical touching to an extent, comes into play. It takes practice Sooner, give it some time, I think you'll know how to handle it after awhile. If her wheel starts to squeak, thats a good thing, you can validate her thinking if she verbally notices whats happening. You can adjust at that time.
Let it play out for a bit, its only been a couple of days.
