She's ready to move on

[Michael Mc C]

After posting last night, W and I have a VERY long and VERY emotional conversation. I think we were overdue, there were a lot of feelings that needed to be sorted out. As expected she is still mourning the loss of the relationship with OM. She wants to hate him. She doesn't want to hear his name ever again. She doesn't want him walking the earth.

I am fully aware that this is still a very strong emotional attachment, just on the opposite side of the spectrum. In order for anything to happen HERE, however, she will need to get to a point of indifference (an emotional level of 0 instead of 100 or -100).

She ended up sleeping in my bed last night. Probably out of sheer exhaustion - it was a long discussion. We are both pretty well drained this morning. In fact she laughingly told me over coffee this morning that she was suffering from an emotional hangover. So true.

I am being supportive and validating her feelings because I really do understand what she is going through (not sure she understands what I'm going through). I am not, however, going to be easily pulled back onto this ride. She has a lot to work through and I don't want to partner up with her on this - not healthy for me and it wouldn't help her grow if I did.

This is my opinion anyway. Any thoughts?

Free weights and sushi tonight! Can't wait.