Willing to be disturbed...

[cat03]

hey hon, another sexless wonder talking, sigh, have not had any since August. The first time my H came back in 06 I did initiate and was able to have a semi normal SL (at the time I didnt' know but he was mourning the death of the A and S from ow)

This time around I am hesitant about starting ML, we are just beginning to get close, we actually sleep in the same bed and it is a huge improvement to cuddle and hug (got nothing the past months), prior to my latest bomb it was understood that he wasnt' ready, I also had a few mini meltdowns and we did talk about it.

I think you should bring it up in the most gentle non accusatory way you can muster it, I assumed for the longest time I was giving my H time and time went by and nothing got better. Talk about it, don't leave anything to chance, it's been too freaking long!

I won't initiate, this time around my H needs to initiate for me to feel this time it is for real since we've been through 2 bombs already, this is what works for me, I understand that in my sitch we need to learn to communicate and begin emotional intimacy before we have physical intimacy.

Are you guys seeing a MC at all? this would be a good reason to start seeing one. Hugs hon)))))