So last night H came home from work, ate dinner, and had a "normal" night with me and the kids. Played on the computer with S. Read books with D. And once the kids went to bed, we sat in the TV room on separate couches to watch TV, but wound up in a 20 minute conversation about his job--his company may get bought out which could put his job in jeopardy. We even talked about a few other job options he is looking at. He volunteered this info, I just casually asked, "How is work going? You don't look quite as stressed this week" bc his job is a MAJOR source of stress. One woman had a heart attack at work about 5 weeks ago, and in the past another guy had a heart attack and died at his desk, and 2 or 3 others in the last 10 yrs. have had heart attacks or strokes at work due to the stressful nature of the job. He always says he is not happy with his job which I know affects his happiness w/everything else. I almost hope he goes and gets a different job because the change in stress level might do him a lot of good. But any job change will involve a move, and he will have to make bigger decisions about R with that. Although two weeks ago he mentioned if he got a job back home by our parents, he would think that the kids and I would move back too?? So as far as my original question about separating and DBing, I went totally silent on that yesterday. I didn't ask him anything about moving out. Once early in the night he mentioned he was having the furniture delivered instead of picking it up (bc he saw a letter from the furniture store on the counter, that brought the subject up), but that was it. I am not going to ask him again to fill out the visitation calendar or get supplies ready for kids. The ball is totally in his court on those things. We actually had a really nice night (two in a row!), and tonight I will be gone to IA to watch his niece play b-ball. So when he went to bed, I said, "I will see you Saturday then." He responded that if he gets off work early he may come up for the game tonight too, but I doubt it. Anyway after a couple good days in a row it would almost be nice if he had tonight without us to think about what he wants to do, and if being with us is really as bad as he sometimes says it is.....Thanks for listening!
