1st post- he left- came back- & just left again

[kissak]

My H first dropped the bomb in Dec 2006
He was gone for about 6 weeks. He began dating a friend of his. It turned into a PA. He came home at 6 weeks and tried to work on things, because he couldnt live with himself if he didnt. He was home for about 2 months. Never broke contact with OW. Left again. Went back to OW. Came back because of something I said. Moved out of his apt and came home. Was home for about 3 months or so, decided he was leaving again but stayed another month just to talk to MC. Moved out again...back with OW. Was gone for about 2 weeks, wanted to try again. Lasted about 2 weeks. Went back to OW. He didnt move in this time. Was with OW for about 2 weeks. Came back around Thanksgiving. Stayed for about 2 weeks, left....couldnt get over OW. TOo hard. Came back about 2 weeks later. Stayed until the day after Christmas this year. Left again...He loves OW, more himself with her, never loved me that way...blah, blah, blah.

OMG!! That looks horrible when I see it all before me. I hope I didnt miss anything. I saw that when I stayed a friend with him, talking to him....even having sex with him while he was with OW....made him want to come back home. So I never really let the R play out with the OW. He was never with her long enough. He would leave me...and go back to her EVERY time. HE would practicly Live with her and pay rent at another house for him. He is still doing this. I am waiting for the bomb of "Im moving in with her" I did see however that the last time he came home, he had started saying he did have feelings for me. He was missing me and he did want to be with me...but she is new and exciting...

I think My sitch is a little different. Because I let him do this. I didnt make him feel a loss with me. I think You need to let your H feel a loss for you. My H thinks he still has me.....but wait until he does this again. I am preparing myself for that day. I would not recommend what I have gone through to anyone. ..Dont take them back with the OW still in the pic, no matter what they say.

I guess it was more like 6 times of him leaving. Unless I left one out. That is horrible really. Im waiting for him to implode!