In the dating years I vibed healthy bunny/monkey and my H healthy puppy/monkey and it worked. I grew up in an enivonment where my mother was weak bunny to my father and non sexed cow to us kids, while my dad was definitely St Bernard...noy much sex going on there.
After marriage I became weak bunny towards my H but had a lot of cow ( responsisility and nurturance) at work. I really needed the wolf, and would encounter that at work sometimes and get a thrill. At home, my H was weak puppy and our sex life stalled. He became dysfunctional monkey in the outside world, and the flirting/playful stuff shut down weak bunny even more.
After kids, my non-sex cow came more into play and the bunny was really dying at this point. H continued with weak puppy at home and dysfunctional monkey in the world.
When I came to this board, for the first time lionness and monkey came out, and it was so much fun! My H had removed weak puppy from the scene, and was acting more like mean, dysfunctional wolf. I think all my inner animals got excited by the possibility of a wolf on hand ( finally), but my H's wolf was directed elsewhere. His St Bernard also made an appearance, but not towards me.
My lionness/monkey came out so strongly it eventually helped to redirect my marriage to get the attention of my H's animals. Now I am getting a healthy rotation of the whole spectrum from him....he has really grown, but it took outside assistance ( unfortnately). And I guess I needed space from his weak puppy to grow too.
I know now that I need my H to have part wolf in the picture, to compensate for my bunny tendencies. I have been able to give up the cow as I had been stuck in that child raising, nurtuting mode for so long I desperately needed a change. My challenge is to keep lionness and monkey going now that dysfunctional wolf is gone.
