I am absolutely 'cow' when I am nesting, cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids... an H will naturally benefit by default from such activities
Nope. You have to feed the man first or you have effectively rendered him into a low status beggar rat in your own mind and killed your own sex drive. Simple tribal rules. You do it even when he comes home from the hunt empty-handed because that shows good faith. The cow is faithful. When my 2bx honestly said that I did everything a woman could to help him, this is a good part of what he was saying. I consistently made the effort to place him in a position on dominance but he didn't want the responsibility. He knew our marriage was over on the evening I chose not to feed him. It was a clear sign that I had lost faith in our marriage and respect for him. Of course, I was too cow relative to my other animals. I should have demanded more respect and affection from my 2bx but withholding sex or the extra pork chop from a man is not the way to do it. Doing that will just turn him into a submissive monkey/puppy who you will not want to f*ck. It's true that I was "too surrendered" in my marriage but many of the women on this BB are/were "not surrendered enough".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
