Stuck in Neutral - MN Man's 5th thread

[Heimlich]

That "Letting Go" bit is really good. When I read it initially it really helped me start getting a grip on things.

Really, MM, let go of the judgement of your W. It's OK to realize that you're not totally at fault, but as for the rest, man, let it go. I see you killing yourself wondering what your W is doing. You know it, but she's not part of your life right now -- maybe forever. Accept that. Not just with lip service, but really embrace that fact.

She. Is. Not. Your. Wife.

Until you do, you're not going to be able to move forward.

Going to have to disagree with you on the weed. Some days, I wished I lived in Amsterdam -- or still had my college connection. By the way, got any Cheetos?

Regarding Bear's rowing the boat in the shower moment (great South Park comment about the mayor rowing her boat to shore, great bit of innuendo, that), when I was really deep in all of this during the summer and early fall, Finding Nemo kept popping in my head. The scene where the mask falls down the rift and Dory starts with the whole "Keep swimming. Keep swimming." bit. Dunno why, but that always gave me a lift.

Hang in there, you'll make it and your life will get better.

BD

PS. GREAT job on not drinking when you felt the need to.