Super quick summary of our sitch: Our M has always been up and down, no real mean fights just a lot of sulking, pouting and not talking on both sides. If we argue W shouts and withholds intimacy (which is limited anyway). I retreat into my shell, and sulk. No talking can last a long time. 2004 W screams at me this M is over and we distance ourselves from each other. 2005 discover brief PA, W ended it and we decide to work on the M. 2006 discover evidence of long running EA (could go way back but for now I'll say 2003), 2006 Things were ok with us, W actually tried with M, so I let things go. (I didn't understand EA's then). 2007 discover EA hotting up, so I bust it up. Shortly after I get the proper ILYBNILWY speech. Then find out OM from PA, back as EA. I go mad and move out. W gets mad at me and jumps into full blown PA. 2007 I discover DB site and get to work (wished I'd found it in 2005) 2007 I move back home W always mad at me. I DB, but get to point of giving up and suggest D talks. W says its ended with OM. 2008 Were back in same house, same bed but W says she not attracted to me, doesn't want intimacy, felt like this for long time. She doesn't want D or to sell house anymore, but says we stuck together. No sign of commitment to me, but she committed to the house. We move forward slowly.
So new title "W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing"
