NikB #24

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jak
Yep, keeping it up, that's the key!! I realized I am GALing but got too "un-mysterious" lately.. so back to adding in a bit more mystery.

Michelle
I know, at least there was an upside to all the wind blowing and stuff crashing on top of the house!!

ST
Thanks! Agreed, I think the lights out / candles is kind of automatically romantic without pushing it. I also think H really likes solving a problem, figuring things out - and not only figuring them out (i.e. candles), but going over the top (finding a neighbor with a broken generator, and offering to repair it in trade for using it til we got power back, while also turning his truck into a temporary generator...). He definitely "gives" in acts of service and I see it SOO much in times like this. He was so proud that he was able to "spoil me" (his words) by us being able to watch a movie with the power out, keeping me warm with the fire (and later heater), and helping me save my fish tank.

Aw man.. gettin' all misty eyed.. I really love him, in case I hadn't mentioned that in awhile.

Sorry your lights came back on too fast! It IS kinda "fun" in a way. For awhile, anyway.

Yeah that 180 could've WAY backfired, but thanks! Was proud of how I pulled it off - and glad it worked out good! I figure it'll be good for me either way. Either he'll hide his "semi-sneaky" crap better - which means I don't have to hear it - or hoping for a more positive twist on it, it snapped him out of feeling "weird" about things and he may invite me more. We'll see.

Hey I'm so glad to see you checking in on blindsided!! I think you have a lot to offer her.

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Some quick journaling... crazy day.

Got an email from my Dad (still kinda shocked he told me this via EMAIL!)... my grandma is apparently declining and quickly. This is the grandma I hadn't seen in ages (11-12 years? maybe more?) - she shut out the whole family. The weekend after Thanksgiving, my dad and I went up and visited with her - it was really a huge deal that she even let us do that.

Apparently, we just found out, she stopped eating right after that. Also kept turning off the heat in her apartment. Basically trying to kill herself. I don't think it has anything to do with our visit - I forgot that the anniversary of my grandfather's death was a week or so after we visited. And then the holidays and such. They moved her out to my Aunt's house so she could watch her closer (she was in a senior independent living type place before). She's lost more weight.. apparently she's now down to around 70 lbs. Hospice accepted her as a patient today. Soo... not looking very good. It's very sad, although she's been unhappy for so long, I think it's sort of a blessing in disguise too.

I already had plans to meet up with some of my new friends I've met tonight after work, so I went, although I felt bad because I was kinda distracted. Still, it was nice to be out with people and we talked a lot about future plans, so that was good.

Depending on what happens with grandma... Saturday H goes to pick up his new race car (sold two other cars and is buying this one for the new class he wants to get into). I'm really excited for him as it's been a dream of his for a long time. And - he invited me to go with him to go pick it up!! It's about a 3 hour drive each way and he already had another friend going, so I was really surprised he invited me too.

Sat. night I have plans with a group of about 20 people to go to a dueling piano bar / show. I am SO excited for that. I used to go all the time but all the places here that had them have shut down. This bar apparently does it every few months though - so I am looking forward to it. (again.. all depending on grandma though).

I feel like I should go visit grandma but she really doesn't want people to see her like she is now. She's always been very "Southern Belle" about those things - dressed perfectly, hair styled perfectly, just always "done up" if anyone (even family) was around. She spent hours getting ready when we visited her after Thanksgiving. I know my dad and aunt will be there, but right now she would prefer that I think of her as I last saw her (or as I saw her when I was a kid). Kind of hard for me to understand but it's what she wants. I can be there in a few hours if she changes her mind.

So what a whirlwind eh? Halfway working on my GALing and mystery and having fun and halfway worrying about my grandma, trying to figure out what's right and what she wants.. been a crazy day mentally.

Kind of glad I am swamped with work tomorrow.