She's ready to move on

[Michael Mc C]

Thank you all!!

Tonight's update was SUPPOSED to be about what I did tonight that was fun. Instead, we've had a late breaking development here that I will focus on.

The fun stuff was simply cleaning the car and skipping the gym to buy more clothes. Okay, pretty tame but it was all good for me.

Now the real story. I don't know if I've posted this before but an online friend of my W's recommended months ago that I begin playing the game anonymously so that I could interact with her and if ever we "turn the corner" on this thing, she would be pleasantly surprised. I decided to go for it - what could it hurt, in the end, it's something we can share.

Okay, so it's not my idea of real quality time but it has been fun - it's also really odd to get along so well with my wife online when we can't get along nearly as well in real life (of course she has no idea it's me).

Lately I've been concerned that, because we haven't turned that corner, if she found out, she'd kill me. She'd think I was keeping tabs on her. That is not the case but I got tabs on her tonight that I was NOT expecting.

It seems she has received at least 2 pictures on her cell phone from other players. 1 of them I know from the game and his was explicit. The other 1 I have no idea who he is and I don't know the nature of the picture - but I could guess.

This is something I simply cannot tolerate. W knows that I will not tolerate this. So I discussed it with her tonight.

I was calm and simply told her that this will not continue while she lives here. Apparently she sent pictures too (they were not received) but she denies the attempt. I don't care at this point. This will NOT happen again in my house.

We got into a bit of a marriage talk and I ended it. I told her I didn't come downstairs to discuss our marriage or the affair. I simply wanted to tell her that this cannot happen again.

I called the guy who sent the explicit picture and told him, kindly, that he is not to send another. He said he completely understands and that he won't. Who knows if he will but if it happens and I find out about it, she is going to leave.

This may be harsh but I've explained to her that there are things I will and will NOT tolerate. This is one of them.

I feel good. Not because she started crying about this, not because she said she is torn up inside about OM and certainly not because I think I "won" anything. I feel good because I stood up for what I believe in.

I'm not angry but I am terribly disappointed. Add this to the pile of crap we'd have to work through in order to fix this thing. Oh well, life is an adventure, right?

Have a great night everyone.