I started my letter by going through some of my personal beliefs about marriage relationships in general – one of these being that a husband and wife should have a bond with each other that they don't have with anyone else. I believe that a big part of this bond comes from physical intimacy, which is in my opinion the primary thing that separates the relationship that you have with your spouse from the relationships that you have with everyone else. Of course physical intimacy must be accompanied by various non-intimate ways of showing that we love and care for each other, but by the same token it can't be neglected if we are to show our spouse that we truly adore them. Then I touched on the benefits of physical intimacy, going into some detail about each. I see these as being pleasure, health benefits, psychological benefits, and most importantly enhancing the bond between two people.
The rest of the letter was more specific to my relationship with my wife. I went into detail about the specific reasons that I desire physical intimacy with her. I addressed things we used to do together that I miss, how certain things (rejection, lack of interest, etc.) make me feel, my fear of eventually having an affair, etc. I also tried to show some understanding with regard to what she might be going through. Then I basically asked her to think about everything that I’d written and decide for herself if I’m worth all the effort. I’m trying to leave her alone to do that. I’ll let you know if it does any good.
After re-reading your post just now, I thought of one more thing. I made a real effort not to say anything mean, sarcastic, etc. This took several iterations of reading what I’d written and trying to imagine how it might come across to her. I was very honest and to the point, but hopefully in a loving and understanding way. Hope this gives you some ideas.
