The New Adventures of Supermom...Part 3

[peacetoday]

Jenny
sorry for your pain
sometimes I have felt H to be totally gone too then he comes back-- cycling
My H too disagrees with my parenting values now
he just wants to give kids everything and play video, give candy buy stuff when he is here
i finally set boundries..did it with a nice tone..no pushing just my thoughts
he still doesnt totally do it my way but it is better
I keep DB no matter what
if H is angry I listen for a minute then leave
if he hangs up or walks out I let him go
sometimes I leave VM calmly staing my point and let it go
if he supports me I thank him
if he doesnt I let it go and take care of kids the way I see fit
I am lucky as H doesnt want to take them to his place whereever that is
so I have full custody and he visits
hang in there
keep DB
for this year, i rarely said much to H about his parenting and giving them toys and candy
i let all that go
it was only recently I started to try to enforce stricter rules as i saw video affecting kids
I told Him this is not about US- the kids are being affected- he disagreed and hung no big deal
that is his right to be a jerk but he heard me anyway
i dont expect h to be there right now
peace