"Hopefully these people are wotking through a number" in the letter. Those are the these people that amused me!
Obviously it leads to an R talk, there's no clear way around that. But, I think you want to keep it a little R talk. So, I think you make it about you. Maybe that you just are not quite sure how you feel, and a couple of extra weeks would make you more comfortable. So, you are not attacking his position, and you are making it your issue. And you are not asking anything of him. What do you think?
Yea I thought that too...Hmmmm we ARE these people.We are REAL people.
The only thing is if I make it like I'm unsure, he already knows that and he may say to me "E, please just let me go." In which case I'm not stopping him from moving out, just not moving ahead with the finances.And then comes "why? E"
This is where I have a problem. In reality it's because I don't want him to go and I'm digging my heels in, but how do I not convey that?
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
And what's he going to think you mean by recent developments. OK, so maybe you blame the lawyer! They're good for that. Say the lawyer really preferred to wait, and you wanted the job done right, so you said to go ahead and wait a few weeks. We know an R talk is a bad idea, so we blame the lawyer?
I'l blame the lawyer! She makes good money she can handle it! Besides she'll never know
I did something good /bad today....
I actually have been doing this more times than just today.
I have lost over 50 lbs and when I went on vacation I got a really good tan, I have changed my hairstyle and colour and have gotten a lot of comppliments.
Even my attitude has changed and I'm more like the person I used to be before all the siht hit the fan.(Laughing smiling and carefree)
On top of all the 180's I've been doing, I'm like a different person.
Well..... at home I have been walking around in my (black) bra and panties I used to do this all the time before, accept it wasn't necessarily matching,,,,now it is
My H is surley noticing and this morning it was actually quite funny. I had put my black pants on and was walking around getting my coffee ready and H was talking about stuff but his words were not making too much sense. I just agreed and pretended that I knew what he was talking about
The devil in me has to keep him on his toes I guess.He needs to know what he's going to miss,in more ways than one!
Don't know if this is good DB or not but it gets him to notice and that's good for me! E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
IMO, it is good DB. Why? B/c you feel good about yourself and want to show it. That is healthy. It does not hurt to show him what he is going to miss without a spoken word about it - just by looking good and feeling good about you. Believe me, it shows and is extremely attractive. It worked well for BFM. Even if I never came home, she looked (looks) great and took time to make sure I noticed. She got a ton of compliments (and apparently practiced flirting - she told me that part) in the process and felt great about herself. All good things.
Keep up the good attitude! Do y'all always pretend to know what we are talking about? LOL. Do you really just hear "blah, blah, blah, yadda, yadda, yadda"?
FW
"When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us." - Helen Keller
Well..... at home I have been walking around in my (black) bra and panties I used to do this all the time before, accept it wasn't necessarily matching,,,,now it is
today....
How's that?