I have read your threads in the past. It really seems like your wife is just a shopper looking for the best deal... You... OM#1.... The rich dude.... Obviously, I do not know her.... But, based on what you have written, she does not seem like a good hearted person... It seems like she is looking for whatever makes her happy at the moment...
If I were you, I would detach and focus on GAL... Take heart! I have found there are a lot of women out there who WILL appreciate a good man....
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
It's okay to be somewhat protective, but I'm not sure it extends to waiting til your engaged. Why would you ask someone to marry you if you don't know how she would be with your kids? What if she's an ogre to children?
I can see questioning it, especially if they are just separated, but how much should extend beyond questioning it? Should one parent indicate that you can't have the children if you are going to be around other potential relationship interests? You made the choice that you wouldn't have your kids around dates unless it was serious enough to get engaged. That's your choice...and Jets as well. But does that mean that the spouse that wanted out needs to follow that lead or not see the kids when they are around other men? Not sure...it seems controlling.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Hey Jet, Just spent some time reading through this whole thread. I just want to say WOW..you are really a testament to true patience. I think you have done such an incredible job of divorce busting, detaching, and continually analyzing and reevaluating things. I am really impressed. No matter what happens with your EW, I think you've done a pretty expert job at divorce busting. I really admire your strength and in my opinion, I would say you are the last one who needs to be worrying too much about being a bad parent. I don't think the EW needs to be throwing any stones that way given her own behavior. I understand though that in this crazy world, we are the ones who have to suspend judgment on THEM...while we generally get picked apart for everything! lol...hang in there
