Sorry to hear your W wasn't as conducive to your goals this weekend as you wanted her to be. I'd kill to have my W snuggle next to me again I don't care if she snored to wake up the neighborhood. I may be wrong, but it seems to me that your hard work this weekend was intended to get results that benefitted yourself, rather than doing it because you genuinely love and/or can give unconditionally. She noticed how hard you were working and commented to that effect and even attempted at getting close to you physically. I would venture to say there are many of us that would take those results and call it a day. Its your last two sentences that sums of your atitude in my mind. I can understand the frustration, I'm just unclear as to how that attitude is conducive to getting your W back, if thats what you really want to do. I think the most difficult part of DBing is having to sacrifice our own needs for the betterment of keeping our M alive. I've been able to do that for the last month and allthough I haven't seen immediate results, my sitch has stabilized, yet still on life support. Hope you have a sincere change of heart the next few days in terms of expecting too much too fast.
