I understand your reluctance, but I kind of doubt your motives. You actually are divorced, aren't you? She does have visitation, right? If so, if she wants to go on a trip, that includes seeing some other man, it seems a little controlling to play the guilt card. Maybe I'm not protective enough, but if someone comes into your wife's life and has contact with your son, you can't completely control that. It's going to happen eventually. She will find someone new (especially if you keep appearing selfish) and what will you do then? Or will you keep your son away if she has guys around? I really wonder whether your generosity at letting her have more time with your son is only if she wasn't going to be around other guys. If you had known that OM#1 was in the picture would you have made the offer?
Anyway, it certainly doesn't sound like she's anywhere close to the point of trying again with you. I think she probably said those things to hurt you because of the trip thing.
Just_Me,
I have to disagree with you. Jet DOES have the right to give his opinion on his son meeting one of his wife's boyfriends or male "friends" . I think it can be very problematic when a child meets many different people.
As for what his ex-W does, that is another story... IMHO, she has proven herself...
In the course of my dating over the past year, my son met exactly on person, RH, AFTER we where engaged. I did not even introduce him to my close friend, TM, because I did not want to cause any confusion...
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
