Quoting lostlove: I've told my h many times that I do not mind doing the house work at all..I don't mind doing the laundry cleaning the house caring for the kids etc...but resentment about doing these things and NOT getting some physical contact from him makes me angry that I do all these things...makes me feel like I'm just his mother or something...now if halfway up the stairs or in the middle of folding laundry or doing the dishes or sitting watching tv or sleeping or talking or whenever h would initiate sexual closeness...I'd be happy to do 10 loads of laundry and not complain at all about it!!
LL
You are so right though of course it is always nice when H helps without being asked when he notices that I am overwhelmed by work. Keyword here is notices.
Flowers every week? I am more touched when H buys me a new hairband to replace my old one because he noticed the one I was wearing is broken.
Candlelit dinners? It can be just as nice eating takeout at home when we talk, laugh and simply enjoy each others company. Anywhere is nice, not necessarily a restaurant.
Compliments, great only if sincere. In other words, little things we do for each other and together, whatever they may be count a lot more. What is the use of flowers, compliments, gifts if you do not treat each other in a loving, thoughtful, caring and considerate manner?
