-When was the last time you made her feel special for no particular reason at all? I try to do this frequently, although I'm not always successful. Sometimes what I think will make her feel special actually doesn't.
-Sent flowers for no particular reason? I've brought her flowers for no particular reason on several occasions recently. The last time, less than a week ago was actually for a specific reason - to thank her for making an effort to work on our problems (okay, for sex if you prefer). But otherwise it's been for no particular reason. Not long ago while out of town I sent her a balloon bouquet at work with a card saying that I just wanted to let her know that I appreciate her and love her. She liked that. I think that sending things (flowers, etc.) to her work makes more of an impact than bringing them home myself, so I should probably try to do that more often. I like your idea about sending fresh flowers for her desk at work every week.
-Boosted her self esteem with a positive comment about something that's important to HER? I try to do this as often as I can. Sometimes works, sometimes doesn't.
-Treated her like a "date"? I still open the door for her etc. but I'm sure I could always do better.
-Changed your cologne? Actually I haven't changed mine yet, but I probably will soon.
-Took her to a nice quiet restaurant and just listened to her talk, while looking deep into her eyes , while smiling? I've done that, but I was frowning instead of smiling. Just kidding actually.
- Poured white zinfadel into a fresh strawberry's center and fed it to her? Never done that one.
-Casually complemented her new outfit, purse, shoes, hairdo, anything? I try to compliment her on such things whenever I can. Still, I'm sure that more complements wouldn't hurt (if sincere).
- REALLY listened and HEARD her? Without offering advice! I'm working on this - I usually try to be a problem solver and I've finally figured out that trying to solve the problem only makes things worse. I think I'm doing better at just listening and hearing.
-Just held her without initiating sex? Did that this morning actually.
-When was the last time you bought her some little gift for no reason and didnt expect sex for it? I do that quite a bit actually - and I really never expect sex for anything that I do. After not getting any long enough, there's not much reason to expect it anymore.
Guess I'd better get back to work. Thanks for the suggestions.
