How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

Maybe he didn't feel any financial strain with paying rent and there are just too many mixed emotions attached to that house. Or maybe he signed a lease at the new place and didn't want to leave them hanging for his part of the rent. Who knows. I'm sure it made perfect sense to him in his head - doesn't it always?

As for the job, if he doesn't get it, the money issues will start putting some pressure on him to figure things out even if you never say a word. As you noted, it has to be his choice. It's so hard to sit back and watch, but I have the same problem you do with coming to the rescue of my H. It's so hard to be patient.