Starting to get it.... my 3rd thread

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thanks Dom. How do you suggest i help him? Seriously, spell it out cause i think i'm a little dense.

I know you told me that when i ask him for help, to keep it more on little things that he can do and not counseling/reading/etc...

i've asked him if he can do little things, for instance:

if i make sure that the laundry is caught up and the basket in the bathroom is empty, would you be able to put your things in the basket when you get ready? That would help me to keep the room cleaned up.

would you be able to unload the dishes and put them away for me at some point during your day, so I can just load up the dishwasher after dinner. That would give us a little more time in the evenings.

I honestly give up on asking. I am seriously not asking for much. I can't ask him to trust me. I can't ask him to just work on the R. I can't ask him to be nicer (he doesn't get that). I can't ask him to be less critical of me and more appreciative.

I'm probably just not seeing it. I've tried being super nice. I've tried to stand up to him. Now i'm somewhere in the middle. I'm obviously doing something wrong cause nothing is happening, but i think my brain is all clouded up with worries....just the other day i was being all positive and now i'm sitting here worrying... i don't like all this emotional rollercoaster crap.