I agree with Hope. I wouldn't bring up any R talks or set guidelines about dating. If you don't want to then don't, but he is going to do what he wants to do. Hopefully he won't, but you can't control that.
I also agree with letting him take care of the furniture and everything for his apartment. That is HIS problem now, not yours. Let him see what it is like to truly be on his own and don't come to his rescue, don't make it easier on him (by the way, I have this problem too).
I hated when my H dropped by unannounced. I didn't think it would bother me...but I couldn't drop by his place unannounced. Just didn't seem fair. You will have to decide if it matters to you. I wouldn't bring it up until it happened though.
Let him bring up R talks. Don't pressure him to make a decision. Give him the space he wants and go and do things for yourself.
I would be careful who you tell. I told close friends and family...and then when my H started changing his mind all my friends thought I was crazy for even giving him the time of day. A lot of people don't understand that you would want to work it out. I agree you need to tell a few people for support and so they know what you are going through, but be selective. People who aren't in the situation don't know what they would do...they know what they THINK they would do. I definitely reacted differently than I thought I would.
