Dom have you thought that she hasn't yet apologized to herself nor forgiven herself? Some people really struggle with those two things and continue to blame others for the ills.
Yes you've apologized using all 5 apology languages but until she is willing to accept an apology all you are doing is trying to push her to something YOU want. I do understand where you are coming from by taking responsibility for your actions and trying to correct them. Where you and I probably are both stumbling is our efforts to get recognition of our acceptance of the responsibility, our repentance and our changes or efforts to change. Bottom line here is when we do those things all we are doing is pursuing which is pushing and pushing our wives away.
(Yes I know, I need to go drink my own kool aid.)
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
