Let me say that when the opportunity arises I will nominate you for sainthood. I identify with your situation so much. Everytime you express your frustration with your lack of sex life you could sign my name to the message. While it is comforting to realize that others are going through this too, it makes me very angry. I’m sorry I should be patient and all that but I think it is such a shame that so many people are suffering for such a ridiculously wonderful aspect of being alive. I can’t help believe that for a lot of low libidoers it begins with an attitude adjustment. Whether you (low libs) think it is important or not the fact is well established that SEX (what a lovely word, no?) is healthy, important and necessary for a sane relationship.
Here’s some great facts I came across:
“WHY SEX IS GOOD FOR YOU” By Laura Snyder
Better sleep. A sexier physique. Stronger immunity. Sound like the effects of the latest wonder drug? Nope, it's just the many physical benefits of having a satisfying sexual relationship.
And all this time you were just making love because it was fun! If you're looking for more reasons to get romantic, consider the following:
1.You're getting a good workout. Would you rather run 75 miles or have sex three times a week for one year? While both burn the same number of calories (about 7,500), one is decidedly more pleasurable than the other. Regular sex - which burns approximately 150 calories in a half-hour -- is regular exercise. You'll have all the same benefits of spending that time in the gym, including improved circulation, lower cholesterol and the release of feel-good endorphins.
2.You won't get sick. According to research by Dr. Carl Charnetski, professor of psychology at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa and co-author of Feeling Good is Good For You, people who reported one or two sexual episodes per week enjoyed higher levels of Immunoglobin A, the antibody that helps fend of illness.
3.You'll feel happier. In addition to the obvious boost in satisfaction, feeling secure in your relationship leads to a greater sense of well-being. Women in particular may see even more benefits. Researchers at the State University of New York at Albany found that women who regularly came into contact with semen were significantly less depressed than those who didn't get a dose of those potent sex hormones and naturally occurring opiates.
4.You'll reduce stress. People who get it on regularly report that they handle stress better. The release of climax will get even the most anxious lover totally relaxed, and you know you'll sleep better.
5.You'll live longer (and look younger!). A British study of 1,000 men found that those who had at least two orgasms per week had half the death rate of those who indulged less than once a month. Sex can make you look longer, too, according to neuropsychologist David Weeks, who found that men and women who reported having sex an average of four times per week looked approximately 10 years younger than they really were.
Of course, I know I’m preachin to the choir here. The biggest problem I see is how do we convince our low lib spouses that intimacy is important enough to make it one of the top priorities in our relationships. Were not just talking having a good time; we’re talking health issue.
I get so ticked for feeling guilty to wanting to make love to my wife. This is insane. Sooner just mentioned the same thing. This is so debilitating. How can we get this across? There almost needs to be a national campaign to Fix Our Sex Lives. I may come off a bit heavy handed here but I’m angry that so many peoples lives are affected by this.
Anyway, I guess I should put this up instead of ramblin on.
By the way, I broke my vow of silence and requested sex last night. She just rolled her eyes and said,”ugh”. I guess that was a “no”.
