Soonerlady.....so sorry to see you here, but it is a good place to be for advice and support. Keep posting. There are alot of good advice givers here.
I dont think you have done any damage. I dont think you need to tell him that you love and miss him, Im sure he knows this. Everyone here will say that would pressure him and push him away. I would think telling him once would be enough. But You really cant tell them what to do, they have to WANT to do it first.
I would suggest reading Michelle's book and GAL....something I am having a hard time doing, but it can be done.
Good luck.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10