I've never tried counseling, either with my wife or alone. This message board is about as close as I've gotten. I really doubt that my wife would see a counselor with me as I've mentioned it before and she's been less than enthused. I have considered seeing one by myself but I honestly can't get too excited about it either - mainly because I doubt that it will help very much. Nonetheless I haven't ruled it out. I'm sure you've stated in your posts but I've forgotten - have you seen a counselor? If so, did it help any?
Over the "long term" I really don't think my situation is hopeless - although my wife and I certainly have a lot of obstacles to overcome. I honestly believe that as our girls get older and more independent, my wife will begin to have a need for me again - not just sexually but also as her best friend and companion. She's quite overwhelmed right now between dealing with the girls, her job, and everything else going on in our lives. This leaves her little time to think about me, much less to desire making love to me.
However, my outlook for the short term is more dismal. I feel like we're wasting the time that we have together and as a result I want things to be better now. I feel lucky to have a beautiful, sexy wife and it kills me to get a glimpse of her gorgeous body as she changes clothes or to lie inches away from her in bed without being able to act on my desires. It's like having a Ferrari in the garage and not being able to drive it, or for that matter even to open the door and sit in it. It's killing me!
I appreciate your support - please do pass along anything you think of that might help.
