Karen, I agree with Theo about your H calling/emailing OW in front of you. And one more thing to point out to your H you are not the only in the house. You mentioned a daughter (how old is she)? If he can't be a gentleman enough to show courtesy or respect to you, what about her?
Like Theo said, it is war. Keep standing up for yourself. If you don't, it sounds like he's going to walk all over you. He's going to get away with as much as you let him.
Sometimes I'd like to get some of these WASs and line them up in front of someone like Judge Judy -- someone who would rip them a new a-hole. Some of them have balls the size of the moon.
It sounds like you had a wonderful IC session. Keep going!
