Hi Sooner: I've been following your posts but I don't think I ever saw any mention of counseling -- have you tried that? If only for yourself? If only with a DB Coach? Having experienced only a modicum of what you seem to be living with, I sympathize so much. From your descriptions, it sounds nearly hopeless, yet I'm loath ever to give up hope and you seem to be the same way. If I can think of ANYTHING that might help, I will be sure to pass it along (FWIW).