Recently Married into a sexless marriage

[Burgbud]

(LFL) Well I'll be the voice of dissent here and say I would not be able to maintain a happy M in the face of my H saying things about me or doing things to me that I felt were invalidating.

Right. So what would you do about it?

It's not about holding onto yourself as much as being willing to let another person in.

I don't understand. You say if you were being invalidated you wouldn't have intimacy or passion or sex with the person invalidating you, yet you'd be willing to let them in?