I think you have gotten excellent advice here. Don't worry about letting your frustration show here. That's what this is here for and believe me, all of the people that post here offer their unconditional support and kindness and it helps alot. Back to your problem. I think you are doing some great things in your r and do need to be patient and hang in there. Don't give up! How exactly do you know that your w truly understands how much you are hurting? It sounds like she is uncomfortable communicating with you by talking. Do you think that a letter from you might help? I think that some of the things that you have said in your posts are beautiful and show how much you love her. She just may want to see all that and have some time to digest it. You have clearly shown here that to you, sex is not all about getting your needs met but a way to show her how much you love and care about her. You might end your letter with asking her to write back to you. She may just be embarassed and uneasy about saying what she feels to you and by her writing it down she can take her time to write what she feels and won't be as uncomfortable about it. I know this worked for me. It really broke the ice in our communication gap. As for my h having to leave and have an affair before I opened my eyes, maybe I would have acted sooner if I truly thought that this might happen if I did not change my behavior but there is no way of knowing. I don't know whether or not you want to tell (or write) her that this has crossed your mind or not. Certainly DO NOT THREATEN. Maybe if she knows that this is a true consideration (as a last resort of yours due to your desperation and frustration) she may get the wake up call she needs. Anybody else have any thoughts on this route to take? Keep hanging in there.
